“One of the great problems of our age is that we’re governed by people who care more about feelings than they do about thoughts and ideas” Margaret Thatcher in The Iron Lady.
Yes. What is it about feelings? Feelings that does not translate into required actions that would make our society a better place. Are we better off today than we were 50 years ago? Honestly, I don’t think so. All that crap about public welfare and humanity. Did Steve Jobs bother about others’ feelings when he closed down the many projects to focus on a few? And if he did, would he then have done it and in return create such amazing products bringing Apple on track? I highly doubt so.
Being in HR, I’ve seen for myself how managers are unable to manage their people due to their feelings. That is especially apparent during the yearly performance appraisals when they refuse to grade poor performers down. I can only assume that they fear hurting the feelings of others or the need to maintain their popularity as a ‘good’ manager. Regardless, in my eyes, these managers are purely incompetent.
Why would you see grading down a performer as negative? Perhaps, it would instead motivate him/her to try even harder. Especially if this was brought up during the appraisal, you could then take the opportunity to come up with specific goals for your subordinate to achieve and guide him/her to achieving it. No, instead, you are guided by your feelings to give an average grading. Is this fair to the performers then? Are you motivating the performers?
I’ve drifted again. Point is, do the right thing. Life is not a popularity contest. Doing the right thing may not be easy, you may not get the approval of majority but if you’re sure it is the right thing, do it.
“Watch your thoughts for they become words.Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny! What we think we become.”